Self-sabotage is a pattern of thoughts and behaviors that can prevent us from achieving our life goals. It can involve procrastination, perfectionism, negative self-talk, avoidance, or conflict. Self-sabotage can also manifest in romantic relationships, where people may choose fights with partners or date people who aren't right for them. It is often driven by anxiety, fear and self-doubt, and can become especially problematic when it becomes a habit.
Fortunately, there are ways to identify and overcome self-sabotaging behaviors. Taking time for self-reflection can help increase self-awareness of our own self-sabotage. We can also pause several times during the day to register with ourselves and decide if our habits are helping or harming us. Setting meaningful goals and taking small steps to achieve them can also help us live with intention.
Additionally, replacing automatic and self-critical thoughts with more nourishing ones is a crucial step in stopping self-sabotage. Finally, recognizing our emotions and accepting past mistakes as part of the human experience can help us develop self-love.
